Who doesn't like to play with himself? Anyone who says no, we know they're just lying. It's healthy, it's normal, it's beautiful, it's necessary.
Something most people haven't tried, however, is to masturbate with their partner!
Yes, you heard right! Together!
What is Mutual Masturbation?
It's when you masturbate with your partner, practically and essentially at the same time you're doing it to yourself, she's doing it to hers. Of course, there is also the case when only one of you is doing it and it's equally interesting, but we'll discuss that below.
Some people feel a bit weird or ashamed to try it, as they have associated masturbation with loneliness and are used to never being seen or having to hide to do it.
You don't know what you're missing if you don't try it!
Why masturbate in front of your partner when you can do it alone?
Reasonable question and we will immediately go into the reasons why this is a very good idea!
- As foreplay it can give you the same satisfaction as oral or other toys.
- You will feel like you are putting on a show for your partner and she for you, which as a role play, can be great! Men and women alike claim that it is highly arousing to watch your partner play with himself. The erection, the wetness, the lip biting. It's voluptuous!
- It is a fact that each of us knows his body well and knows what he likes. So why not transfer this knowledge to our partner? This way you will help your partner to see and learn, as well as you respectively for her. You learn how the other person likes to be touched, which in the process will make for better sex in general between you.
- As we mentioned at the beginning, one of the two can play. So if you want to make it even more interesting, you can tie your partner's hands on the bed and sit opposite her playing with yourself or vice versa. The look and feel will be magical. The anticipation of when you will untie yourselves, how much more you will want to touch each other, the images that will stimulate the imagination... In total the experience, will lead to explosive orgasms.
How can you suggest it? How to put it in the ...program?
You can propose it in a number of ways. Send your partner a text during the day, telling her how much you would love to see each other touching each other. Tell her how sexy you would find it and you will definitely intrigue her imagination.
You can also create atmosphere. Put on music, light candles and ask her to relax and suggest a new experience. Explain to her how nice it would be to play with each other and if she wants arguments, we told you above!
You can also bring it into play through the preliminaries! After you have aroused her enough while you are licking her, stop, look at her, stroke her and tell her how much you would love to show her how she likes to be touched!
If your partner is not comfortable with any of the above, try putting it on the schedule as a Role Play. Think of a scenario and suggest she try it out. That way she will feel like she is someone else and will be able to let go more easily.
And then what?
Once you've got it in play, get comfortable, settle into a position you like and the game begins. Make sure you have direct eye contact with your partner. Ideally, you should be facing each other to get a better view. Try sitting on the bed or couch facing each other.
You can also sit opposite each other and ask your partner to spread her legs and put them over yours, so they are close enough to feel her breath and you can kiss her at any time. Kissing helps.
Ideas to make it even more interesting:
- In this toy, you can easily put your favourite vibrators or any other sex toy you prefer.
- Talk dirty to each other. You can tell your partner what you are doing and how much you like what you are doing or ask her to do the same!!
- This is the perfect time to share your fantasies. You're both aroused, the sexual mood is high. It will definitely excite both of you to be filled with images of sexy things that get you off. And who knows, you might even make them come true soon.
- If your partner is open-minded. Try porn! Find something you know gets you both off and watch it together.
In general, it's something you can tailor it to your needs, try it in infinite ways and eventually find the happy medium. Experiment and you'll find that it's an amazing experience for both of you.
