If you once had or have been in a long-term relationship you have certainly experienced the following:
It is well known that over the years, the desire for sex and passion diminish. This is a stereotype based on some evidence, if not proof. As every couple is different, so is every individual. In long-term relationships, sexual activity depends on several factors.
It is a given that in years of relationships we have experienced the following 9 realities:
It is a given that in years of relationships we have experienced the following 9 realities:
1. Sex-related communication improves the relationship
Many studies have reported that a good sex life is intertwined with a happy relationship.
According to research, sexual satisfaction enhances the maintenance of a relationship!
In addition, good sex smoothes out any communication problems.
Conversely, by having less sex than you want, your relationship is likely to become less stable and lead to separation.
How important sex is in a relationship and its frequency depends on the individuals. Some people do not find sex necessary to have a happy relationship, nor do they seek it with great frequency.
Communication plays an important role. That is why dialogue is very helpful to seek your sexual needs.
Communication plays an important role. That is why dialogue is very helpful to seek your sexual needs.
2. Lack of desire and need for sex is normal
There are some factors that influence people's interest in sex and these are:
- stress
- sleep disorders
- hormonal changes
- drug effects
- psychological problems
- body image
- relationship issues
- changes in everyday life (having a family and taking up a new job)
It's understandable that you don't feel like having sex all the time. Don't judge yourself or your partner negatively.
3. There is a two-way relationship between sexual satisfaction and relationship satisfaction
Good sex usually means a happy relationship, but the opposite is also true. Research has shown that if you're not happy with your relationship, chances are you won't be happy with your sex life either.
If the couple or one does not give priority to sex, then there are already problems in the relationship that need to be resolved. To solve the problem you need to communicate your feelings. Focus on improving your relationship and sex will improve as well.
4. Appearance of low libido in men too
Despite what is said, just as women's desire for sex stops in long-term relationships, the same can happen to men. Because the male sex also shows a decrease in sex drive.
5. Sex: eating makes you hungry
Many feel the desire in a different way. This means that there can be a spontaneous desire that can lead to sex without physical stimulation. Others have sexual desire only when physical stimulation has started. This is called responsive desire.
6. Sex and desire
No one is obliged to have sex with someone when they don't want to, even in long-term relationships. When sex happens when you don't want it, it creates unpleasant feelings for both your partner and the act itself. As a result, you don't enjoy it.
The research is divided into two views:
Α. There is a finding that having sex only for the satisfaction of your partner results in a lower quality of sex life.
Β. According to a 2014 study published in a relevant journal, it was found that people who are motivated by their partners to satisfy their needs feel a stronger sexual desire for their partner on a daily basis and as time goes on in long-term relationships. In summary, when you focus a lot on your partner's sexual pleasure, sexual desire is maximized.
7. Spontaneous sex is not always a requirement
Scheduled sex is just as enjoyable because it has a sense of anticipation. It goes without saying that there doesn't have to be sex as an obligation. Up to the date you have planned, try to give pleasant erotic touches so as to increase sexual activity in your long-term relationship.
8. In sex it is not the score that matters but the mutual pleasure
Keeping score with your partner's performance is not a healthy practice. The partner can create a negative energy and climate, based on who gives and how often, without mutual satisfaction.
9. Even in long-term relationships, sex life can be passionate and abundant
Results of a 2018 study found that couples who believed that passion would decrease in the coming year had lower levels of sexual activity. Therefore, avoid beliefs regarding sexual desire.
Because it will have the consequence of disappearing over the years and there is a chance that your prophecies will come true!
Keep in mind that there are couples in long-term relationships who maintain a high level of sex life! In essence, the more you know each other, the more intimacy and comfort you will have and the more you will be guided in your search for new sexual experiences.
As a couple, you can pursue whatever kind of sex life you want, as long as there is positivity, receptivity and willingness.
As a couple, you can pursue whatever kind of sex life you want, as long as there is positivity, receptivity and willingness.
