If you have ever had or have a long-term relationship you have definitely experienced the following:
It is known that over the years, the mood for sex and passion decrease. This is a stereotype based on some evidence, if not evidence. Just as every couple is different, so is every person. In long-term relationships, sexual activity depends on several factors.
It is a given that in the relationships of years we have experienced the following 9 realities:
It is a given that in the relationships of years we have experienced the following 9 realities:
1. Communication related to sex improves the relationship
Many studies have reported that a good sex life is associated with a happy relationship.
According to research, sexual satisfaction enhances the maintenance of a relationship!
In addition, good sex normalizes any communication problems.
Conversely, having less sex than you want will probably make your relationship less stable and lead to separation.
How important sex is in a relationship and its frequency depends on individuals. Some people do not consider sex necessary to have a happy relationship, nor do they look for it very often.
Communication plays an important role. That's why dialogue helps a lot to find out your sexual needs.
Communication plays an important role. That's why dialogue helps a lot to find out your sexual needs.
2. Lack of desire and need for sex is normal
There are some factors that affect people's interest in sex these are:
- stress
- Sleep Disorders
- hormonal changes
- effects of drugs
- Psychological problems
- body image
Relationship issues
- daily changes (acquiring a family and being hired for a new job)
It makes sense not to be in the mood for sex all the time. Do not judge yourself or your partner negatively.
3. There is a two-way relationship between sexual satisfaction and satisfaction in the relationship
Good sex usually means a happy relationship, but the opposite is also true. Research has shown that if you are not satisfied with your relationship, most likely you will not be with your sex life either.
If the couple or one does not give a basis for sex, then there are already problems in the relationship that need to be resolved. To solve the problem you need to communicate your feelings. Focus on improving your relationship and sex will improve as well.
4. Appearance of low libido in men as well
No matter what is said, just as women's desire for sex stops in long-term relationships, the same can happen to men. As the male sex also shows a decrease in his sexual drive.
5. Sex: Eating brings appetite
Many feel the desire in a different way. This means that there may be a spontaneous desire that can lead to sex without physical arousal. Others have sexual desire only when physical arousal has begun. This is called responsive desire.
6. Sex and desire
No one is forced to have sex with someone when they do not want to, even in long-term relationships. When sex takes place when you do not want it, it creates unpleasant feelings for you both for your partner and for the act itself. As a result, you do not enjoy it.
Research is divided into two aspects:
A. There is a finding that having sex just to satisfy your partner results in a lower quality of sex life.
B. According to a 2014 study published in a relevant magazine, it was found that people who are motivated by their partners to satisfy their needs, feel more intense sexual desire for their partner every day and as time goes on in long-term relationships. In summary, when you focus too much on your partner's sexual pleasure, sexual desire is maximized.
7. Spontaneous sex is not always a prerequisite
Scheduled sex is just as enjoyable because it has a sense of anticipation. Of course, sex does not have to be an obligation. Until the date you have planned, try to give pleasant sexual touches, so as to increase sexual activity in your long-term relationship.
8. In sex it is not the score that matters but the mutual pleasure
Keeping track of your partner's performance is not a healthy practice. The partner can create a negative energy and atmosphere, on the occasion of who gives and how often, without mutual satisfaction.
9. Even in long-term relationships, sex can be passionate and plentiful
Results of a 2018 study, it was decided that those couples who believed that the passion would decrease next year, showed lower levels of sexual activity. Therefore, avoid her beliefs about sexual desire.
Because it will disappear as the years go by and there is a chance that your prophecies will come true!
Keep in mind that there are couples in long-term relationships who maintain a high level of sex life! In essence, the more you know about each other, the more intimacy and comfort there will be and will guide you in your search for new sexual experiences.
As a couple, you can pursue whatever kind of sex life you want, as long as there is positivity, receptivity and willingness.
As a couple, you can pursue whatever kind of sex life you want, as long as there is positivity, receptivity and willingness.
