Ways to help yourself to a better sex life
The physical transformations that your body undergoes as you age also have a significant impact on your sexuality. A decrease in hormone levels and changes in neurological and circulatory function can lead to sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain.
Such physical changes often mean that the intensity of youthful sex can give way to more restrained reactions during middle and later life. But the emotional by-products of maturity - increased confidence, better communication skills and reduced inhibitions - can help create a richer, more distinctive and ultimately satisfying sexual experience. However, many people fail to realize the full potential of sex later on. By understanding the critical physical and emotional elements that form the basis of satisfying sex, you can better navigate problems if they arise.
Dealing with sexual problems is easier than ever. Repeat medications and professional sex therapists are there if you need them. But you may be able to resolve minor sexual issues by making some adjustments. Let's look at some things you can try at home.
1.Educate yourself. Many good self-help materials are available for every type of sexual problem. Browse the Internet or your local bookstore, pick a few resources that apply to you, and use them to help you and your partner become better informed about the problem. If speaking directly is very difficult, you and your partner should be able to highlight passages you particularly like and present them to each other.
2.Give yourself time. As you get older, your sex drive slows down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, fuss-free place to have sex. Also, understand that physical changes in your body mean that you will need more time to rejuvenate and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time for sex is not a bad thing. Working these physical needs into your lovemaking routine can open the doors to a new kind of sexual experience.
3.Use lubrication. Often, vaginal dryness that begins in perimenopause can be easily corrected with lubricating liquids and gels. Use them freely to avoid painful sex - a problem that can hit the neurons of the brain in the brain to spoil libido and increase the tension of the relationship. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.
4.Maintain physical affection. Even if you are tired, tense or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and hugging is essential to maintaining an emotional and physical bond.
5.Practice touching. The sensation-focusing techniques used by sex therapists can help you restore physical intimacy without pushing. Many self-help books and instructional videos offer variations on these exercises. You may also want to ask your partner to touch you in a way that he or she would like to be touched. This will give you a better sense of how much pressure, from gentle to firm, you should use.
6.Try different positions. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to lovemaking, but can also help in dealing with problems. For example, the increased G-spot stimulation that occurs when a man gets behind his partner can help a woman reach orgasm.
7.Write down your fantasies. This exercise can help you explore possible activities that you think might be: for you or for your partner. Try to think of an experience or film that triggers you and then share your memory with your partner. This is especially helpful for people with low desire.
8.Do Kegel exercises. Both men and women can improve their sexual ability by exercising the pelvic floor muscles. To do these exercises, tighten the muscles you would use if you were trying to stop urine in the midstream. Hold the contraction for two or three seconds and then release it. Repeat 10 times. Try to do five sets a day. These exercises can be done anywhere - while driving, sitting at your desk or standing in a pay line. At home, women can use vaginal weights to add strength to the muscles. Talk to your doctor or a sex therapist about where to get these and how to use them.
9.Try to relax. Do something relaxing together before you have sex, like playing a game or going out for a nice dinner. Or try relaxation techniques like deep breathing exercises or yoga.
10.Use a vibrator. This device can help a woman learn about her own sexual response and allow her to show her partner what she likes.
11.Do not give up. If none of your efforts seem to be working, don't give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and can identify effective treatments. He or she can also put you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may stand in the way of a fulfilling sex life.
