Ways to help yourself in a better sex life
The physical transformations that your body undergoes as you get older also affect your sexuality. Decreased hormonal levels and changes in neurological and circulatory function can lead to sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or vaginal pain.
Such natural changes often mean that the intensity of youthful sex can give way to more restrained reactions during the middle and later life. But emotional maturity byproducts - increased confidence, better communication skills and reduced inhibitions - can help create a richer, more distinctive and ultimately satisfying sexual experience. However, many people fail to realize the full potential of sex life later. By understanding the critical physical and emotional elements that underlie satisfying sex, you can better navigate problems if they arise.
Dealing with sexual problems is easier than ever. Remedies and professional sex therapists are there if you need them. But you may be able to resolve minor sexual issues by making some adjustments. Let's look at some things you can try at home.
1. Educate yourself. Many good self-help materials are available for every type of sexual problem. Browse the Internet or your local bookstore, select a few resources that apply to you, and use them to help you and your partner better understand the problem. If you speak directly it is very difficult for you and your partner to be able to highlight passages that you particularly like and to present to each other.
2. Give yourself time. As you grow older, your sexual impulses slow down. You and your partner can improve your chances of success by finding a quiet, comfortable, no-frills sex space. You also understand that physical changes in your body mean you will need more time to rejuvenate and reach orgasm. When you think about it, spending more time with sex is not a bad thing. Working these physical needs into your love routine can open the door to a new kind of sexual experience.
3.Use lubrication. Often, vaginal dryness that begins in peripheral disease can be easily corrected with lubricants and gels. Use the free ones to avoid painful sex - a problem that can hit the neurons in the brain to disrupt libido and increase the intensity of the relationship. When lubricants no longer work, discuss other options with your doctor.
4. Maintain physical affection. Even if you are tired, tense or upset about the problem, engaging in kissing and hugging is essential to maintaining an emotional and physical bond.
5.Practice touching. The sensory focusing techniques used by sex therapists can help you restore physical intimacy without stress. Many self-help books and educational videos offer variations on these exercises. You may also want to ask your partner to touch you in a way that he or she would like to be touched. This will give you a better sense of how much pressure, from gentle to constant, you should use.
6.Try different places. Developing a repertoire of different sexual positions not only adds interest to love, but it can also help to deal with problems. For example, the increased stimulation at point G that occurs when a man steps behind his partner can help the woman reach orgasm.
7.Write your fantasies. This exercise can help you explore possible activities that you think might be for you or your partner. Try to think of an experience or movie that provokes you, and then share your memory with your partner. This is especially useful for people with low desires.
8. Do Kegel exercises. Both men and women can improve their sexual ability by exercising the pelvic floor muscles. To do these exercises, tighten the muscles you would use if you were trying to stop urinating in the midstream. Hold the contraction for two or three seconds and then release it. Repeat 10 times. Try to do five sets a day. These exercises can be done anywhere - while driving, sitting at your desk or standing on a pay line. At home, women can use vaginal weights to build muscle strength. Talk to your doctor or sex therapist about where to get these and how to use them.
9.Try to relax. Do something relaxing together before having sex, like playing a game or going out for a nice dinner. Or try relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises or yoga.
10. Use a vibrator. This device can help a woman learn about her own sexual response and allow her partner to show her what she likes.
11. Don't give up. If none of your efforts seem to work, don't give up hope. Your doctor can often determine the cause of your sexual problem and can find effective treatments. It can also get you in touch with a sex therapist who can help you explore issues that may stand in the way of a full sex life.
