The tantric sex is a new way of sexual connection that allows you to access deeper levels of emotion, sensation and energy and ultimately more of who you really are. This path is simple but profound! It is about wholeheartedly celebrating the sacredness of our bodies and desires, while bringing a quality to our shared expression of pleasure . It can help you release the shame, trauma and barriers around sex, unleashing the transformative power of your erotic energy and leading you to some of the most sensational orgasms ever. Through this holistic approach, sensuality also becomes a doorway to existence, to the divine and to a more intimate experience of the present moment!!!
What is tantric sex?
Tantric sex is a sexual practice that is part of the ancient spiritual path known as tantra. Tantra is a Sanskrit term that translates to "weaving". It refers to the weaving or union of the male and female forces within all of us, heaven and earth, the human body with the transcendent, dissolving polarities. The purpose of tantra is to discover an ecstatic union beyond the separate sense of self. Sacred or tantric sex - an aspect of tantra - is seen as a gateway to this transcendent truth, once we learn how to tap into it. The simplest explanation of tantric intimacy is that it has to do with bringing the fire of your sexual energy, passion and desires into alignment with your heart, spirit and sense of goodness in your life.
When these forces come into balance and harmony, the sparks of interpersonal magic really start to fly and sex becomes something healing, empowering, transcendent and deeply beautiful. We're talking about the kind of love that feels truly connected, aligned, extremely powerful and filled with the utmost respect and commitment between you and your partner. This kind of intimacy challenges yourself and leaves you overflowing with love. Time slows down, your intuition expands and you can find yourself in almost psychedelic realms of orgasms you may have only heard of or imagined! Sounds pretty good, doesn't it?
Tantric sex involves a wide range of erotic activities, not all of which involve the same kind of penetration and physical stimulation of erogenous zones that most people associate with sex. A typical tantra session involves the subtle spheres of sex, such as slow embraces, gentle caresses, and a focus on the movement of energy between partners' bodies. Sometimes during tantric sex, you are barely moving and the focus is on the meditative, worshipful dimension. If you relax and take things slow, or speed up and slow down the action, you can make love for hours and the pleasure can just keep growing!!! Men can also explore practices such as getting close to orgasm and not pushing it, which enhances their ability to last longer and retain more pleasure before they suppress to orgasm. That said, all sexual energy can be tantric when done with awareness. Tantric sex can dive into raw, intense and animalistic spaces where the body's instinctual intelligence dominates and into blind pleasure. Domination and submission can also be tantric! Breathing is also important in tantric sex. People can use breathing to move sexual energy throughout their body, awakening their capacity for whole-body pleasure (rather than pleasure achieved specifically in the genitals).
Neo-tantras VS classical tantra
Tantra dates back to at least the seventh century, if not earlier, and appears in various forms and texts in Hindu, Buddhist and Jain traditions. But usually when Westerners use the word "tantra", we are really talking about the realm of " neotantra". There are several intricate and rigorous spiritual paths of "classical tantra", which aim at full spiritual awakening or enlightenment as the goal. These include Kashmir Shaivism , a strand of religious philosophies from Kashmir and India, and the Vajrayana Buddhist path of India and Tibet.
These paths often involve serious study and personal devotion, meditation practices and may include various elements of ritual, such as the use of tantra, visualizations and deity worship. Sexual energy work was only a small part of the practice and was only for advanced students. In contrast, neotantra was developed over the last 150 years and specifically aims to achieve more satisfying intimacy and connection, a deeper connection with the body and its emotions, healing trauma and experiencing greater states of orgasmic ecstasy! This set of teachings has been deeply inspired by some of the core principles of classical tantra, but it is important to recognize that much of what is taught and shared among modern tantric sex workers is not "ancient practices" in the literal sense, though it is meaningful and relevant in its own ways.
Tantric sex positions and practices you should try
1 . Create a sacred space
Consciously disconnect yourself from the mundane world and enter the world of the Divine - the world of pleasure. Turn off appliances, light candles or incense and gather any special treats such as chocolates or berries.
Clean yourself up by taking a shower and dress up in something fabulous. Clean your space by tidying up and putting away piles of clothes. It is also best to skip or lightly consider substances (alcohol) to be fully present.
Set intentions for this intimacy session, such as, "My intention is to show you with my body how much I love you" or "I am curious to explore myself deeply."
2.Eye gaze (or "soul gaze")
In the strong gaze of your partner, you cannot hide and you reveal yourself fully to the other person with all that you feel and all that you are. You see them fully while at the same time letting yourself be seen.
Sit upright on a cushion or chair facing your partner. You can look from the left eye or just look slowly from both eyes, and you can also hold hands if you want. Let the love that is in your heart shine through your eyes.
Looking at your beloved, see the divine spark in their eyes, admiring the pure life force that animates you. Feel the sacredness of this simple moment together. Try for two minutes; notice what feelings or sensations arise or if you feel tempted to look away. It's not a persistence contest, so you can always close your eyes for a few seconds and then open them again.
3. Circuit with hands on hearts
This can often flow beautifully through the look of the eyes. While sitting across from each other with a gentle gaze, bring your hands to your heart and breathe!
As you feel the love welling up in your heart for your partner, reach out and place your right hand in your partner's heart (with their consent), and they can place their right hand in your heart. Then each person's left hand covers the hand on their own heart. Synchronize your breathing, with slow, deep breaths. On the inhale, receive breath and love into your heart, and on the exhale, send that love from your heart to your right hand and to your partner's heart, creating a circuit of love and energy flowing between you. Do this for about 10 breaths.
4 .Tantric massage
Tantric massage is another powerful part of tantric sex! It can be the key to multiple orgasms for both sexes! In tantric massage, one partner can simply lie down and enjoy it, having the opportunity to tune into their pleasure and sexual energy and see how they want to open up through their body, while the other partner moves their hands slowly and meditatively along the body to allow them to feel each new sensation. Consider trying yoni massage (a tantric massage for the vagina and clitoris), lingam massage (a tantric massage for the penises) and tantric nipple massage .
5 . yab-yum position
This classic tantric sex position represents the union of Shiva and Shakti, the two divine energies of the male and female. But remember that these are just energies and it doesn't matter the gender of the participants. Even for relationships between men and women, it is important to practice alternating between each role.
The primary partner (representing Shiva, who is actively or physically penetrative) sits cross-legged on a pillow in the "holding" position while the other partner (representing Shakti, who is actively or physically receptive) can either lay their legs over their partner's legs or buttocks on the bed or a pillow or they can sit fully in their partner's lap. The arms of the primary partner should rotate around the waist of the other partner, whose arms rotate around the shoulders of the primary partner. Your heads can be cheek to cheek or you can touch forehead to forehead. This position aligns the partners' chakras and allows sexual energy to move upward along the spine.
Once you're in alignment, start by taking a few deep, slow breaths together, synchronizing your breathing. Then start moving together in slow undulations, arching, swirling in circles, finding a flow and rhythm that feels comfortable, activating your sexual energy together. The primary partner "gives" to the partner above who "receives" this energy into their body.
Connect with your breath to expand pleasure and sexual energy throughout the body, illuminating every cell with this life force. You can try to stick with smaller, subtle movements or get as forceful as you want, but in either case, use your breath to draw orgasmic energy from your pelvis up your spine and down to your third eye (the spot between your eyebrows) or crown ( the top of your head) and beyond.
This position can be performed fully clothed, naked or with any form of penetration you want. You can even learn to have full body energy orgasms - without any penetration - while remaining fully clothed, although this may take a little more practice!
The purpose of tantric sex
There can be a whole set of goals and expectations around sex that push us to be a certain way, as well as routines and habits that keep us stuck in a sexual rut. Tantra is about throwing all of that out the window and starting over with a beginner's mind. To redefine sex by making it more about intimacy, connection and playful possibility rather than a struggle for orgasm or something else to control.
When you give up goals such as "to separate from someone" or to achieve anything in particular, there is literally endless room for discovery and such a wide range of what is possible. And whatever you are experiencing now in terms of orgasm, you can safely assume that there is so much more to experience through tantric sex-more powerful orgasms, orgasms that last longer, ejaculate-free and multiple orgasms for men , many kinds of orgasms for women, deep states of surrender, states of visualization, and states of oneness with your partner and life itself. Sacred sexuality can also be an integral part of the journey of awakening and personal evolution. Various spiritual teachers have admitted that orgasm is an experience that gives us a glimpse of divinity, because there is a diminution of the normal egoic self in these moments of communication.
The benefits of tantric sex
1. Get more of what you want in sex
2. Liberation of sexual blocks and shame
3. Finding treatment for sexual trauma
4. Awaken your sexual energy to flow freely through your body
5. Access to your ultimate pleasure and desire
6. Fine energy tuning
7. Discovering multiple orgasms
8. Men who delay orgasm or experience orgasms without ejaculation
9. You experience a new level of heart connection with your partner, a deep sense of intimacy and loving presence
10. Greater moments of love, relaxation and quality of the relationship
11. Improved communication and communication
12.Holistic mind-body-spirit connection with yourself and your partner
Myths
There are many myths about tantra that can make people feel that it is not for them. But the will to be taught tantra is because we believe that most people have identified only a small part of their power and truth encapsulated in their sexuality, next to all the mixed cultural conditioning and trauma that most of us carry. When people are aligned in their sexuality, when their sexual "life force" is fully activated within them and connected to their heart and spirit, they can become the most thriving, unstoppable and inspiring versions of themselves to fulfill their purpose in the world.
