Half of the population is interested in Kinky sex toys!
Sharing the more intimate details of your sex life is still largely taboo. If you can't talk about Kinky Sex with your closest friends, would you do it much more easily in the bedroom?
The truth is that at least some of your friends have tried it and probably one in five make it part of their regular bedroom play. According to the 2015 Sexual Exploration in America study, more than 22% of sexually active adults engage in role-play, while more than 20 percent have tied their hands and received gentle spankings.
The most amazing thing? Another survey found that nearly half of the 1,040 people surveyed were interested in Kinky toys, even though they hadn't had the opportunity to explore it. And there's a growing body of research that bedroom adventure could have multiple benefits, both for your health and your relationship.
Although the word kinky sex does not have a medical or technical definition, it is generally any sexual practice that does not fall under the convention usually considered acts such as affectionate touching, romantic conversation, kissing, vaginal penetration, masturbation and oral sex.
BDSM. When most people think of kinky sex, they think of BDSM, a four letter acronym that stands for six different things: Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM encompasses an extremely wide range of activities, from dominant/submissive role play to bondage parties and pain play.
Imagination and role play. One of the most common forms of sex involves the creation of fantasy scenarios. This could be as simple as talking about a fantasy in bed, as complex as wearing costumes or acting out scenes in front of strangers.
Fetish. One in four men and women are interested in fetish play, defined as the sexual treatment of a non-sexual object or body. Common fetishes include feet and shoes, skin and several more.
Voyeurism. Watching someone undressing or watching a couple having sex without knowing it are common fantasies, while sex in public is a form of exhibitionism. Both are surprisingly common - 35 percent of adults surveyed were interested in voyeurism.
Group sex. Threesomes, sex parties, ragers and more, group sex is any act involving more than two people. Ten percent of women and 18 percent of men have engaged in group sex, with even higher percentages expressing interest in the idea.
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The kinky sex can be beneficial in some surprising ways
Kinky sex can help you feel better and be more mentally healthy. A 2013 study found that both dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners were:
- Less neurotic
- More extroverted
- More open to new experiences
- More conscientious
- Less sensitive to rejection
They also had higher subjective well-being compared to the control group. This could mean two things: That people with these traits are attracted to Kinky sex or that it can help you grow and gain confidence. But the latter is very likely, especially as we research more about the effects of Kinky sex.
For example, a 2009 study found that couples who engaged in positive, consensual sadomasochistic (SM) activity had lower levels of the harmful stress hormone cortisol and also reported greater feelings of closeness and intimacy after their sexual play.
And a preliminary study (people taking on the opposite role they are used to, such as a dom becoming a sub) found that consensual BDSM can reduce anxiety by bringing the mind into an altered "flow" "state of consciousness.
Understanding misconceptions, stereotypes and myths
Not surprisingly, since we are not talking about Kinky sex, there are many myths and misconceptions. Let's clear the lies into a few common stereotypes.
Women are also interested in Kinky Sex
For example, more men are interested in foot fetish play, while more women are interested in experiencing pain as part of sex - both men and women want to explore it equally.
You are not "crazy" to try BDSM
In the mainstream media, the BDSM is often associated with abuse and violence. Some trainees even faced persecution and discrimination because of their partners. But studies show that the average person who engages in consensual kink has above-average psychological health.
You don't need very fancy equipment
The image of a leather dominatrix holding a matching whip can get your mind going when you think of kinky sex. Really, all you need is an imagination and a partner who can play with you.
If you like certain fetishes or want to explore the world more thoroughly, there are certainly shops for that. However, trying out Kinky sex doesn't need such heavy equipment. You don't even need an eye ribbon or handcuffs if you want to play play playfully with sensory deprivation or restraint as a tie or pillowcase can work in both cases.
