Today we will continue with Naya, 27 years escort from Russia, who talked to us about bdsm.
It's something that has become "fashion" especially in recent years. More and more people are getting involved in such games and putting bdsm on the menu to make their sex life more intense and interesting.
It's something very special and it's nice to be no longer a taboo as it used to be. The fact that you like something different should not be the reason for you being abnormal or thinking that you have a problem.
Wild, intense sex is something that many people enjoy. They are the same people who may sometimes love to have sex with their partner.
This does not make them curious, they just like the variety and the strongest emotions. As we have said many times, every person is different, so he has different wants, different needs, different fetishes.
In general every person is unique, just like any experience!
So let's go see some things about bdsm !!
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Tips for beginners:
The main thing that we should never, ever forget is open and 100% honest communication. It is essential for any game to be safe !!
Talk about your expectations, your needs and of course your boundaries. Do the same with your partner / partner as well as with yourself.
After you pass this stage, find out about anything you do not know well or anything you have doubts about! The next step is to create a safe environment for you and your partner and learn to read each other!
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I like wild games. Do I need any tools?
Everything can be used! Once we understand and learn where we can hit, whip, bite, tighten, pinch coke, the only limit is our imagination !!!
Hands in combination with our mind, are the most dangerous and at the same time the most voluptuous tools that we can use in any kind of sex game! It's all you need to be able to irritate or hurt or play with a person. It is basically your tool for the preliminaries, for the sex itself but also for the care afterwards.
Also taking care of after any "wild" play in bed is extremely important and should ΠΑΝΤΑ to exist.
Your partner is human and with the intensity that such games necessarily have, it makes sense for many things to happen. He can be scared, hurt, cry, and in general he can experience incredibly intense and sometimes unprecedented emotions.
It is an experience that is very intense, both emotionally and emotionally! So it needs the same attention afterwards. We need to make each other feel safe, secure, that we care for him, that we are there.
It's important too after the game to discuss exactly how the other experienced the experience. What he liked, what he didn't like, what he would like to do differently and how, what he would like to never get back on the menu, what made him feel uncomfortable and could not bear it etc.
In general, we need to take great care of them toys can be enjoyable and never, ever, cause trauma, psychological or physical, and also create negative emotions!
How one plays at such levels and what one considers wild is totally relevant! Some love the pain, others love the humiliation, others the stillness and go saying it.
Personally, I love edge-play! It is one of the most intense experiences one can experience.
The edge-play is then the game in which, we reach our partner's limits and sometimes, if we see that it is possible and that we like it, we make it over!
It is very important, of course, to know in advance what the dangers are these games and have a relationship based on honesty and blind trust, with the person we are going to play with!
In such games, the other is completely left in your hands. He trusts you blindly and can believe that you want to, do things he thought he would never do, or experience things that are completely unheard of.
We must always cherish that confidence and take care of the other as best we can. There is nothing more beautiful than a human being who is given complete, body and mind. So you have to make sure the whole experience is magical and not leave them bitter or frustrated!
During such games, if you have the slightest doubt or negative emotions, be sure that the other will perceive them. This can cause very, very serious problems.
It is also extremely important to know if the person you are playing with has any health problems. Physically or psychologically!
Safe words MUST exist!
I've heard different couples or people playing bdsm games with each other, say, we are one, we know absolutely we do not need a safe word. It's totally stupid and unsafe !!!
Worldwide in the world of bdsm, there are 3 words. The green that means continued, I like it. Yellow means that I like it but it makes me feel uncomfortable, weird! Where and when you study body language and know whether or not you should stop red! Where red means how to stop immediately.
Of course everyone chooses to have their own word, something they wouldn't use easily in a sentence, which means they've reached their limits and anything more would actually do harm!
If you get to the point where your partner stops, talk about how it felt, what happened, why you wanted to stop. Discuss the feelings, what he or she has experienced, so that in the future you will know how to manage the situation better!
In general when we are involved in bdsm we just need to have in mind security, communication, consensus and attention !!!!
We will continue, analyzing bdsm tracks and practices, in our next articles.
